Tuesday, 26 May 2015

How to Judge People?

I understand, that is a strange topic to write on! But trust me, this is going to be a good one!

Now before we begin, lets get the hypocrisy out of the way! Those who believe and say that they are not judgmental, or don’t evaluate people need to get come out of their imaginary world! And get a reality check! Because there are only two options in such a situation: 
1. Either you are Mother Teresa
2. You don’t exist!!!! So go ahead take your pick.

Well, if you are still continuing to read this, I suppose you went for option 3. None of the above (LOL I always use this one!) Great! So, now that we have the fa├žade out of the way, lets begin!

I want you to ask yourself, what is the first thing you notice in a person? The way they appear? Their gender, height weight, color of the skin? Their past? I know, we tend to be so righteous and fair, be we ending up categorizing people on basis of certain aspects of their life, they didn’t select!

A human, does not decide, which family they are going to be born in! whether it is a rich or a poor family? Any person does not have a choice to select their skin color! (and let me make that clear.. no skin color is better than the other!) No one decides where he or she is going to be born! Most of cannot decide how tall we are going to be, or how our body structure will be!
We humans actually have no control over these aspects of life, THEN HOW CAN WE JUDGE THEM FOR IT! If you think about it, it is just not logical! 

So then how to judge a person? On their past decisions? HELL NO! you were not there, when they took those decisions, you do not know what options life offered them!
Then what? How can you judge a person? I have put down a teeny tiny list together.. I don’t mean to offend anyone with it. But this is something I use.
1.     Keep a watch for their actions and not just words: Judge them on that! How well can they keep a commitment! (Kyunki bol bacchan toh sab de sakte hai!) BEWARE of the sweet talkers, these are the people who will show that they are helping you but they are actually not! This person is the wolf from red riding hood disguised as your grandmother! So be careful and beware, little red riding hood! Don’t get your head bitten off!

2.     Keep your eyes and ears open: Most people end up talking behind your back today or tomorrow. That should be another criteria for you to judge someone. And the best part is, sometimes you don’t even have to wait for them to bitch about you. You can observe them do that with a third person! And always remember, if they can gossip about others to you, they can gossip about you as well! You ain’t any different mate!
3.     See how they utilize their time: I hate people procrastinating! Though I end up in that category once in a while, I make sure not to set up base camp there! Which is important! It is necessary to have ambitious people around you, who boost your confidence as well! Judge them on that! Not everyone has the ambition to be a millionaire! (On second thought, everyone wants too!) But are they doing anything about it!?!? Probably not!
4.     Judge them on their current decisions: if a person has a choice to do the easy thing or the correct thing.. which one do they select? That should tell a lot about a person. But before you do that, get the entire picture first!
5.     Charity Show offs: Another aspect, to judge them on.. if people you know, do charity so that they have something to talk about.. is actually not charity. You learn about their true motives and intentions.

Well, that’s on my list! Please let me know how you liked this week’s blog? And Confused Gyani’s journey until now! Please leave some nice comments below. And as you are not Mother Teresa, do share with us how you judge people and what is on your list. Also any comments and suggestions are welcome!

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